Bren Ryder

J. D. Bauchery, an author and reviewer on the HotMoviesForHer blog, recently reviewed the new DVD by GoodDykePorn.com.

Here’s a snippet of the review:

Well, the name says it all really. Did you ever watch something so hot and exciting that you didn’t have words for it? Yep, that’s where I am right now. Well, that and totally smitten with Bren Ryder, the super sexy butch mastermind behind this collection of real dykes really getting off by fingers, fists, dlidos, tongues and any other way you can imagine. And it’s all safe sex! Actually, better than that, it’s safe sex with black latex gloves! How hot is that!?

What a sweet thing to say! Check out the rest of the review (nsfw).

I think this is truly the Holy Grail of productivity. How, on earth, do I get all this shit done? All this shit that is keeping me from realizing my dream. All this shit that will one day lead me to my ideal life. If only I could get shit done, then my life would be perfect.

I’ve read books and blogs on productivity and how to prioritize and simplify and get that shit done. I’ve tried working for really really long hours and working for short spurts of work. I tried “Big Rocks First” and “MIT’s” and “microtasking”. I’ve tried working in a dark office, a café, my kitchen table, outside and in bed.

I occasionally will do a weekly review and update my long-term goals.
I’ve downloaded a variety of productivity software - which I spend all my time figuring out how to use.

There’s one part of productivity that I’m always drawn to: simplicity.

[I just diverted from my writing to check out zenhabits.net - a blog about simplistic productivity - and found our how to get shit down. A giant list of lists.]

Top 20 Productivity Lists

This article will take me a few hours to get through, but after I’m done, I’m really going to get shit done.

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Bren Ryder is the creator of Good Dyke Porn, an independent amateur hard core pornographic video website which proudly features authentic queer women having amazingly hot sex.

I had a conversation with a friend recently who is a no-nonsense, out-spoken, hard-core feminist about porn. We were talking about what I do and she listened politely as I spoke about it and then proceeded to let me know why porn was incredibly wrong and harmful to women. I admit it, I was shocked. I really didn’t know that feminists still felt that way. She was utterly against all porn for the following reasons: the violence against women, the profiting off of women’s sex (and violence against her) and using powerless and vulnerable women. I’m sure that does happen in the world. I don’t doubt that, unfortunately. But, then I had to ask, “What does any of that have to do with what I do?” She replied, You make porn.

Porn. It’s a word that holds a lot of meaning for people…

Read more: Naked City blog article by Bren Ryder

“She worked hard and was a nice person.”

The eulogy of the person I used to be:

Dear Brenda:

You have been a part of me for so long now. Prior to this moment I didn’t even know I could function without you. With an uncanny ability to wile away the time, you’ve inspired the most motivated person to sit and relax. I will take inspiration from your stick-to-it-iveness. The way you stuck with dead-end jobs and bad relationships was awe-inspiring. The hard work you did to line the pockets of unappreciative bosses was pure martyrdom. You spent more than you earned and saved nothing - living on faith alone. A faith that we could all use a healthy dose of every now and again.

Brenda, you started some really incredible projects and accumulated an impressive amount of debt doing so. Your methods were typically similar to everything you did in the past. So consistent. I will miss the way you stretched 2 hours of work into 4 hours. I’ll miss that black hole that sucked up all of your time. I’ll miss your inability to ask others for help and your penchant for working solo. You never were much of a team-player.

Most of all, I’ll miss the way you could work your ass off and still come away with an income below poverty level. The way you could make a sure-fire income generating business into a voluntary hobby was your finest work to date. We are sad that you are leaving us with the debt of the past, but confident that it will disappear nearly as quickly as it was accumulated.

You were a very important part of my adult development and now that you are gone I will never be the same again.

Love,
Bren