Bren Ryder

If you like porn then chances are you’ve gone to a free porn site, like Pornotube or Xtube to watch some free clips of people fucking. I have because it’s my job and because I like to watch people having sex. However, at the enter page of these sites and many other VOD sites you are given two choices of the type of content you want to see: Straight or Gay.  Some sites give you the option to choose both, but what if your choice is Neither?

As time goes on and I watch more and more porn, including man/woman cock action and man/man cock action, I’m realizing that I don’t really like watching cock.  I am a dyke afterall so it shouldn’t come as much of a surprise. I want to see dyke porn.  I want to see silicone cocks, smooth bodies, breasts, curves, muscles, WOMEN. As most of you know the most common female porn is “lesbian” porn. This is NOT the same as “dyke” porn. Most likely the women are straight or maybe bi, but it doesn’t even matter what their sexuality is because the content is essentially the same: conventionally beautiful feminine women acting like their having sex, but paying more attention to the “watcher” than to each other.  But, here’s the funny part.  If I want to watch “lesbian” porn I need to click on the category STRAIGHT. How did lesbian porn ever get the label, straight?

That’s not a difficult question to answer. Lesbian porn has and is created for straight men. Okay, I can accept that. But if lesbian porn is considered “straight” then the porn that I create should not be in that category. I make dyke porn. The scenes feature women (mostly) who are fucking other women (mostly). There is nothing straight about it.  Even when we shot a scene between a man and a woman it was the queerest piece of work we’d done to date.

So, does the categorization apply to WHO is watching it? Not likely, I don’t think transsexuals are the predominant viewers of “tranny porn” or mothers watching “milf porn”. Categories describe the content.  Lesbian porn does not describe the content of what we are creating at GoodDykePorn.com.  What does? What box can we put this content into?

Dykes are notorious for fighting to break down labels and embrace the fluidity of sexual and gender identity. But we need a label to identify ourselves and the sexually graphic images we create or else other people will do it for us. And as it stands the category we’re being put into is STRAIGHT. That is so wrong.

But what about the women that don’t identify as dyke or even female? How do they fit in to the dyke category? I’m of the opinion that the category “dyke” includes more than just self-identified dyke women. It also includes transguys, femme dykes, butch lesbians, queers, bisexuals and many other varieties.

Queer porn is the other up and coming category for the type of porn that is being made these days. Sites like Crash Pad Series and No Fauxxx identify as queer porn and of course, Buck Angel (although, he identifies specifically as FtM porn).  Perhaps instead of having a main category as STRAIGHT with a sub-category LESBIAN, we can have a main category QUEER with subcategories of FtM, DYKE, GAY (google queer porn and you’ll find mostly gay porn sites), and many other people and sexual preferences that don’t fit into “straight” or “gay”. The funny thing is that Good Dyke Porn™ doesn’t seem to be queer enough to fit into the Queer category at HotMoviesForHer. In this context queer only applies to transsexual/transgender porn.

I want to see the DYKE category because this is a category that is female-centric. The content does include transgender guys and even a bio-guy, but when you’re looking for women then you know you’re going to find them in dyke porn. The beauty of female-centric anything is that it’s highly inclusive. There will always be a variety of sexual and gender varieties in dyke porn, but first and foremost you will find dykes. Come on people, dykes are huge segment of society. We are women who love other women and we exist in every corner of this planet. At times we fluidly shift our gender identity and always love and embrace our community’s choices, but we need to claim our place in this world.  We need an address so you can find us. We need to fill the box with content that we actually enjoy watching.  Give that box a name.

Call my box DYKE!

This week my myspace account was deleted because I had a link to GoodDykePorn.com - my baby, my life, my website. The only reason I was on myspace was to let the world know that this site exists. I admit that I didn’t read the Terms of Service close enough and it does specifically say that links to an adult website are prohibited. I would have been happy to de-link the site, but, oh no, they had to go and delete the whole thing and all 800 of my new best friends.

This isn’t the first time this has happened to me - being deleted from a mainstream community site.  On Facebook they deleted my Bren Ryder fan page and the Good Dyke Porn group. Except they don’t specifically say they you can’t link to an adult site and, in fact, they take no responsibility for 3rd party links. Their reason was that they claimed I had “obscene content” on the pages.

The frustrating part is that the only thing I’m guilty of is linking to the front page of my porn site. The page that says, “if you haven’t figured it out already, this is a porn site, if you’re under-age then you know that you’re not allowed to be here, so go play somewhere else, but if you are of an appropriate age, there’s explicit material here, so proceed with that knowledge”. I’m paraphrasing a little. It’s the link that’s evil, apparently, because there is/was no content on any of my community pages: no pictures of models, no nudity, no sex. What makes it so obscene? The words themselves: Dyke Porn!

It’s important to me to be really upfront about what I do. I make dyke porn - i.e. empowered women who love women share their sex on camera.  DYKE PORN. But the dominant society seems to think that those two words are bad. Perhaps if I had a website called GayLadiesDoingNudgeNudgeWinkWink.com then I wouldn’t get in trouble so frequently. But that’s entirely contrary to my objective. I want people to know that what they’re getting is sexually explicit material - PORN, by authentic queer women - DYKES. There’s no ambiguity here. If you click that link you know where you’re going.

It’s hard to fight against the past wrongs of slimeballs who have shaped the porn industry’s reputation to be what it is today: degrating, sneaky, pop-ups you didn’t intend to find, money hungry abusers and other sad facts that people assume applies to anyone who produces porn. I have to use special adult web hosting. I can’t use paypal, ebay, google ads, newsletter services, shopping carts, even certain banks won’t deal with my company.

Guess what? There is nothing wrong with women having sex with each other! There is nothing wrong with sharing it in a public space! When you click on a link that’s called GoodDykePorn.com you are consenting to be a part of that public space.

Instead of embracing sex and sexuality as a natural part of our lives, instead of embracing pornographers as a welcome contributor to our everyday lives these mainstream communities simply delete me. I’m relegated to the porno communities that don’t even have a category for “dyke porn”, that don’t even have female directors in their directory of pornographers (I know they exist, they just don’t participate in these adult communities).

I find the internet really frustrating regarding these sort of divisions and restrictions, but at the same time I can still write a post like this and share it with many people at once. I can provide Good Dyke Porn to people around the world quite easily. And I can get feedback and support and love from those of you who watch and care about this as much as I do.

I’ll keep working at legitimizing, sharing, and creating dyke porn. But, I think I’ll remove the link from Facebook profile. I can play the game. Eventually, sex will be appreciated, accepted and embraced. Once our dominant society puts more focus on love, rather than violence, we’ll be on our way there.

The Rules:

1. Link to your tagger (Butchtastic!) and list these rules on your blog.
2. Share 7 facts about yourself on your blog - some random, some weird.
3. Tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as their links to their blogs.
4. Let the know they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

The Facts:

1. My myspace account was deleted this week for having a link to an adult website - bye bye 800 new friends.
2. My car was written off last week - someone smashed into it in front of my house and then took off, but I needed the cash anyway.
3. Despite being described as a “public pervert” by some, I’m actually quite shy and introverted.
4. I can juggle.
5. I play classical guitar - like Bach and shit like that.
6. I like green smoothies.
7. I don’t want to pass this tagging game onto anyone else - see I’m SHY!

But I will give you some links of blogs that I like.

Buck Angel Blog - transsexual male porn star
Waking Vixen Productions - Audacia Ray’s blog
Sugarbutch Chronicles - sex, gender and awesomeness
Leather Yenta - Lolita Wolf’s Predictions & Predilections
Ms. Naughty - erotica for women
Viviane’s Sex Carnival

I’m still getting to know the world, so please introduce yourself and I’ll start filling out my blogroll.

Writing for a blog that’s all about me isn’t easy. The last thing I want to do is write, “sorry I haven’t written, I’ve been really busy”. That’s the worst excuse, in my opinion. If you’re going to write a blog then you write a blog - everyone’s life is busy. Now that I work on my porn business full time I have a lot more time to get work like this done, but, as usual, it’s slow going. I’m not sure if that has more to do with my priorities or if I’m just lazy. I try not to consider myself lazy, but…

A larger problem that I’m encountering with maintaining a blog about myself is that I have a hard time believing that what I have to say is interesting to anyone. To regularly add content about my process in growing my business and working and earning money and finding inner peace and blah blah blah means to write about things that I think might be quite boring.

I love to come up with interesting articles and “how-to” posts and really put some thought into it and carve out a piece of work that means something to me. Those kinds of posts are created much more sparingly than these kinds of posts. I’d really like this website to ultimately be a wonderful resource for future independent pornographers or at the very least a tale of a woman who started from nothing and grew a business into a successful influential phenomenon.

These things take time.  For now, here’s an update:

• I paid for my rent on my VISA
• I have over $2500 overdue from various sources
• I have a new scene booked for September between a beautiful couple
• My neck hurts from sitting in front of the computer too much
• I haven’t done my accounting in months
• My new work-from-home arrangement allows me to get to the gym every morning
• I’m blissfully in love with my life!

Blogging is a great way to communicate and to hone your writing skills and its importance is slowing creeping up higher and higher on my priority list. Perhaps one day I’ll figure out how to articulate this process in a way that I actually consider interesting. Thanks for reading this meandering musing.

“She worked hard and was a nice person.”

The eulogy of the person I used to be:

Dear Brenda:

You have been a part of me for so long now. Prior to this moment I didn’t even know I could function without you. With an uncanny ability to wile away the time, you’ve inspired the most motivated person to sit and relax. I will take inspiration from your stick-to-it-iveness. The way you stuck with dead-end jobs and bad relationships was awe-inspiring. The hard work you did to line the pockets of unappreciative bosses was pure martyrdom. You spent more than you earned and saved nothing - living on faith alone. A faith that we could all use a healthy dose of every now and again.

Brenda, you started some really incredible projects and accumulated an impressive amount of debt doing so. Your methods were typically similar to everything you did in the past. So consistent. I will miss the way you stretched 2 hours of work into 4 hours. I’ll miss that black hole that sucked up all of your time. I’ll miss your inability to ask others for help and your penchant for working solo. You never were much of a team-player.

Most of all, I’ll miss the way you could work your ass off and still come away with an income below poverty level. The way you could make a sure-fire income generating business into a voluntary hobby was your finest work to date. We are sad that you are leaving us with the debt of the past, but confident that it will disappear nearly as quickly as it was accumulated.

You were a very important part of my adult development and now that you are gone I will never be the same again.

Love,
Bren

Welcome to my first musing. I am writing online for the first time without painstakingly editing and critiquing every word that I write. I’ve decided to completely expose myself and show you what goes on in my mind, with my body (porn), the business, my finances, my spirituality and my mistakes.

When I started this business I had no idea what I was doing. Now that a couple of years have gone by and the website (GoodDykePorn.com) has been live for nearly 10 months, I’ve learned a lot, but, I still feel like I have no idea what I’m doing. I’m doing it anyway.

The beginning of this blog is definitely something new. It’s a level of sharing and exposure that I wasn’t prepared to do until now. Sure, you can go to the website and see my cunt, but to read my thoughts, to learn about my mistakes, to see my naiveté… that’s something completely new.

Enjoy.